Post Modern Feminism

The article below is by Elizabeth Held hit me particularly hard.  I am the generation between the Gloria Steinmans and the millennials.  I am the dreaded Generation X which has long been considered to be losers and failures who would never amount to anything.  Never mind that my high school class alone had 6 valedictorians, 2 salutatorians and that Ted Cruz and Marco Rubio are part of my generation as our countless small businesses and internet start ups owners who have become wildly successful. But I digress…

We are the generation in between that is really responsible for the anti-feminist attitude being expressed by many millennials.  (Disclaimer some (not all of us) are also responsible for the helicopter parenting which has been disastrous.  Why we did this I am not sure.)  We have taught our girls to be strong but we also have realized that climbing the corporate ladder doesn’t always lead to happiness.  We have learned this the hard way and along the way some of us stepped back and became mothers and housewives and were perfectly happy doing it.  But we paid a price for that as we were mocked by the very feminists who claimed they were trying to empower us.  Anyone remember Hillary Clinton talking about how she wasn’t going to stay home and bake cookies as if that was some horrendous thing.  However, we learned a lot from feminism which was for all the good the 60’s feminist did for future generations it became a shadow of itself taking on a militant tone.  Make no mistake the end of the second way of feminism is militant and takes on the very characteristics of patriarchy that the 60’s feminist claim they were fighting.  It really does not empower women but degrades, it does not bring happiness but mostly misery and it does not makes us equals with men.

We will never be equals the way militant feminists want because men and women are inherently different just as people are inherently different.  We are not equal in capabilities or in the choices we make.  For that we shouldn’t be looked down upon but instead it should be acknowledged as a good thing.  If we were equal in every aspect then the world would be a very boring place.  Now I don’t advocate that a  man and a women who start the same job with the same basic qualification should be paid a different starting salary because they are different genders.  That would be wrong but I do advocate that as those individuals move up the corporate ladder they be paid and receive promotions according to their performance on the job.  That is fair and just and is what the original 60’s feminist were fighting for.  So if the woman is a better employee that should be reflected in her career success and vice versa.  Outside of that though we are not equal at all – we are only equal in that we all have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  After that it is up to us not some law or regulation but us.  I am eternally grateful to the feminist who came before me and paved the way for me in more ways than just work but to belittle us that choose a path different that what the militant feminists has decided is wrong.

It is that belittling tone which influenced me to teach my own daughters to pursue their dreams but that it is okay to have families and children. It is okay to chose the path that makes them happy so long as it is not an immoral or criminal path. It’s okay to reach for the stars and if it doesn’t work out try something different.  It was hard for me to do this based on what feminism taught me and I have not always followed that advice but now I am following it and showing my daughters that trying to catch your dreams outside of what we were told is possible.  You may not be successful and you may end up on a different path but as long as you try you will be happy.  Isn’t that really what is important and isn’t that really the message of suffragettes and feminist – achieve your dreams and make it possible for all women to be able to do that no matter what their dreams are or that they are a woman in a male dominated world.

Millennials Prefer The ‘Crazy Ex-Girlfriend’ Career Path Over Feminism

To use Sheryl Sandberg’s language, instead of leaning in, Rebecca Bunch of ‘Crazy Ex-Girlfriend’ is leaning out. Way far out.

The CW’s critical darling “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” wraps up its first season Monday night. The musical dramedy follows Rebecca Bunch, an unstable New York lawyer who impulsively follows her summer camp boyfriend to a small town in California. Writers have lined up to declare it an important piece of feminist pop culture.

That’s true, but the show is also evidence of a growing divide between young women and the older generation of second-wave feminists, who are increasingly feeling millennials have abandoned everything they worked for.

The pilot of “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” opens with Rebecca, played by YouTube star Rachel Bloom, becoming the youngest-ever partner at her high-powered New York law firm. Instead of being thrilled, she has a panic attack, then coincidentally runs into an old boyfriend on a street corner. She impulsively abandons her impressive, powerful job (and its high earning potential) to move to West Covina, California.

Society’s Expectations Versus Happiness

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